I love you!
Oct 5th, 2007 by Clare
“Saying ‘I love you’ is the hardest thing to do
And if I ever do, girl, I’ll always be true…” - The Moffatts -
I love you.
Three simple words and yet hard to voice them, for some of us. But ‘I love you’ is not just three words. ‘I love you’ are more than words.
Telling your loved ones how you feel is a positive thing. Unlike in the movies, real life love is not a game, nor a farce. It is not hilarious to string someone along when you are not really interested. It is not right also to take lightly of someone else’s feelings.
Different people express love in different ways. Some people are verbal, expressing their love in words. However, others may never speak of their affection, yet they show it by the things that they do. Action speaks louder than words anyway. Sadly, many couples look to receive love the same way they give it, thus misunderstanding their partner’s love message. Quarrels, hurt feelings and even divorce followed thereafter. Somehow, if you understand each other’s love language (and by that, I don’t mean in bed only), you can learn to give and receive love more effectively.
When he/she does not say ‘I love you’ as often as you do, it does not mean that he/she don’t. For them, the words are precious, meant to be said at the right moment. If said too often, it cheapen the words and deeds. Unfortunately, if their partner is a person who can string a few ‘I love yous’ in a sentence, they tend to get pressured as their partner will be most likely to hint them on their frequency to say the magical words.
Meanwhile, some people say ‘I love you’ as easily as they breath. Though most of them mean it when they say it, a lot of people say it just to get into your pants (guys and girls included). It is sweet to know that you are loved and cared for but after a while, the frequent ‘I love yous’ becomes less important and noticeable, just like breathing (though breathing is important).
I don’t know where I am heading in this topic which is subjective but this is something that a lot of couples are facing. I’ll end the post with:
Saying ‘I love you’ once and mean it is better than saying ‘I love you’ a thousand times and do not mean it.
So, which type are you? The verbal or the deed? 
aiyah.. kacang lah saying that 3 words…
For you mar…for other people, no lor
I love u, Clare! Oopss… I mean ur blog!
*sweating* LOL
I love you and I mean it! (I always love my fellow town mates!)
Fuiyo! I am so proud!
Upbringing makes all the difference. Less likely to hear it coming from the kampung kids, at least publicly.
The best joke i ever heard about “i love you” is;
Dirty men will say “i love you” to prostitutes in order to get discount. LOL
Hahahaha! Never heard that joke before…Heh! Good one!
Clare, that was really good. Was reading Emotional Regulation for my Psychology Course two days ago, which I was supposed to read ages ago (was hooked up reading LOTR, that explained the delay).
“…..Everyone has an intuitive sense of what an emotion is, but emotion can be exceedingly difficult to define. Imagine explaining the concept of emotion to someone who has never experienced one….” (Westen, Burton, Kowalski, 2007).
Which, in the context of “love” (italised), would be hard to explain to “someone who has never experienced one….” It doesnt matter how many times the phrase “I love you” is spoken, or really, not to be spoken at all. Which is almost similar to the word “sorry” (italised) - sorry corrects absolutely nothing if you don’t mean it. *wink* What say you? =) Good effort Clare!!
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